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Journal Entry: Thu Aug 23, 2012, 4:32 PM
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Just something that's been bothering me for a while.


Okay, say someone has dated a number of people, online or offline, why is it ANYONES business to be telling them, "You guys wont last," or anything along those lines? Like, it really involves you?

I mean, maybe the person has dated a bunch of people, maybe it's very obvious that they are unstable, maybe they really only will last a month or two with their partner, and maybe it is something to roll your eyes at everytime they find someone new and say they will love them forver, but I mean, who cares? As if it involves you?






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I don't know, it just really bothers me that people who are simply watchers, or by-passers really think they need to speak their opinion on how long they believe a relationship will last. XD


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Helkie-three Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I just have no words...
Who gives people the right to say stuff like that anyway?
Its just ugghhh cant think of anything else to say...
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Blairaptor Featured By Owner Aug 26, 2012  Student Digital Artist
In person, people may be trying to give advice. But on the net, they can't really know everything about the situation, so they shouldn't comment about it.
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Mossclaw123 Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2012  Student Digital Artist
I'm confused to many 3rd view references >_<
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blackevilkitty Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yes I agree with that :I It osen't involve somepeople feel like they need to be involved in your life but they don't SO when that happens you ignore the person xD
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Blackfeather2 Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
are you talking about *Haydendaft
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T0SHII Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Student Digital Artist
i have had that happen a lot. I mean, if you don't think they are going to last together, then why bring it up to them?
1.) it might be hurtful
2.) Why are you in another persons love life?
3.) You cant predict the future.
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Waterstar29 Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Student General Artist
Agreed bro =_= I absolutly hate it when ppl do that..especially when they just hear a few sentences of the convo and jump to that conclusion :P people really need to learn to just shut their freakin mouths and stay outta shizz...
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Cinnamon-Maniac Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
YES YES YES. My friends at school constantly call my boyfriend a rapist or a pedo and they have received stitches in return.
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abbifail Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012
this
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stickerheart Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
fuck what people say XD people say me and my husband are just in a fake relationship lol

People say shit and gossip to make their lives feel better when most of them have nothing but a computer.

Me and david met online , we had been friends for a year (and a little closer) then we disided no more funny stuff and got together , now we live together . it proves they don't know what they are talking about.

If you can last in a long distance releltionship you know you love the person .

plus as you said it's non of their business anyway , don't like it go somewhere eles bitches
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RobinCanisLupus Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Same here, sister.

=3 Wish me luck, maybe? It's been 9 months now.
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stickerheart Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
^.^ best of luck
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RobinCanisLupus Featured By Owner Aug 26, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Thanks. =3
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PandesalPup Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Pisses me offf too.. -___- I remember someone posted on ~PivotalWolf's joural on how much he loved Zan;

Lolwut, you haven't even met each other IRL? That's not love then, man, you're just deceiving yourself. ^_^'
Well, at least that whiny post made me feel happy knowing that I can see and touch my loved ones whenever I want. ._.
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Loki-Dokie Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
ugh tell me about it. everyones been telling me that about my boyfriend and i even though weve been dating for over a year and a half now. it pisses me off when people try to interfere in someones relationship. not just saying we wont last or whatever, but starting to flirt and stuff too >.> i mean if people are in a relationship, its not yours, dont worry about it. if i ask for someones honest opinion about it and thats what they say, fine. but i hate when people tell me that every day or so.
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Yart Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
because some people are concerned over the safety of someone and they don't want them to do a stupid move that gets them or their partner hurt.

im pretty sure the dick here is you for not even considering the feelings of others. huehuehue
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FlamingOak Featured By Owner Aug 26, 2012  Student Digital Artist
Youre right, but theres still the dicks out there who hardly know the person. Its none of there buisness unless the person is, say, their mom.
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Trieheart Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
your missing the point here. its not like a close friend who actually KNOWS what the hell is going on in their relationship. This is just some asshole saying that an online partner won't last because "you haven't seen them irl" and crap like that.

the real dick is the commenter for shoving its nose in peoples business.
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Yart Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2012
either way, is it worth throwing a whole journal out there for?

who cares what they say?
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Trieheart Featured By Owner Aug 26, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
... why did you comment? to tell people what you have to say on the subject. same reason she wrote the journal.

actually a lot if people care what they say. no one has the right to judge a relationship just because its online.
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Thiefer Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
I guess it is annoying, unless their friends and that person just wants to put sense into them. ( No saying they don't have any, just some people think that )
I mean thoughtless dating can harm people. But in my eyes, Dating is a natural thing that should be done, and maybe sometimes the relationship is shaky, but oh well, thats all their business.
I'd have to agree mostly with your opinion.
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FoxDreamArt Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
ugh people say that about me and my boyfriend we have been together for 6 months now
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Nala-Kirtmew Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I agree~ c: It pisses me off when people do that :T
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AshbreezeTheKitty Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
totally agree <3
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Awzumdino Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
A relationship is between two people. Not anyone else. (Unless they say something good o3o)
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riverbeast Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
It just bothers me because I think that it makes other long-distance (or otherwise) relationships look the same way too. It's where the whole stereotype comes from, is people who do stuff like that.
Just my opinion I guess? I don't tell people who they should and shouldn't be with, but I can't say I don't roll my eyes at some of those relationships, haha. It also depends on the person, though.
I think people like you, and Vengefulspirits have great relationships, and don't let anyone tell you guys otherwise! But other artists like Hinauchi or whoever, they seem a bit silly.
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SparxPixel Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
its true :T
people harass others just because maybe their relationship never lasted long
and they r telling us they won't last!?!
just look at :iconvengefulspirits::icontoby-wolfkat:
they have been together for 4 years
don't take ur anger out on random people who just got into a relationship
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XxSilentSnow Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Student Digital Artist
if it's your relationship...

how can they tell how long it'll last if they don't know how you and the other person fit together or whatever

good points everyone has on here vuv
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VengefulSpirits Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
When I first announced I was with Rin here on DA, a year after being with him. I still had ppl saying it wasn't going to last. :T People still give me crap about not meeting him yet..

I guess some people say it because they don't want the person to get hurt or something, but they need to keep in mind each relationship is different, No one is the same so they have different reasons for braking up or being with another.

Sadly people will always make assumptions an say their opinions no matter what, so you just got trust your heart and do what you think is right and ignore in the nay sayers.
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Skybers Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Student Digital Artist

Yeah.... haven't your fans bugged you about your relationships? Like

"Hey are you and _____ still dating???"

and "Who are you dating!?"

Its really none of their business, especially when their saying that you and _____ won't last long dating, thats just mean..
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Fuchsianess Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
I agree completely.
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HMS-ArtHound Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Lol, people just feel the need to comment on everything and I think the stupid/hateful/better-then-you attitude is in style or something right now XD especially on the internet.
Everyone's a keyboard warrior now.
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CinderIzAwesome Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you for pointing that out, everyone seems to think online relationships never work. When plenty of people have ended up meeting, and being together for many months, even years.
Same with offline relationships.

ouo I'm glad you think that way.

;u; Good-day, Blue.
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Feateon Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I had that problem before 8I
I was dating this guy, and we had been dating almost a year so I was all joyous day bullshit stuff. Then my friends mom decides she'd like to tell me that me and my boyfriend wouldn't last forever and he defiantly won't be the last person I date. He wasn't of course, but I was like; how the hell do you know that? Are you involved in the relationship and know everything? asdf-
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DMRichards Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
I'd guess the watcher doesn't want the new couple that's so in love to make the same mistake. I had a distance relationship for 4 years... which I later found out was extremely toxic and am now so glad I was forced to end it. Not everyone is the same, but I wouldn't wish my dating history on anyone.
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Hyperactive-Blue Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
bothers me to...
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HaruTotetsu Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
It's because of celebrities. Think about how many of their relationships go sour. People like to assume things are similar so because celebrities seem to never have a lasting relationship reported on (Katie Price for example), then no-one has faith in relationships lasting. It's also the reason why people act so amazed when you tell them a particularly long period of time as the length of your relationship. You shouldn't pay it much mind.

Though journals like this make me curious. How is your relationship with AJ going?
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
She's not with AJ anymore, it's been months since they broke up I believe. x)
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HaruTotetsu Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
WHAT?! Argh...I'm so out of the loop. Well what's going on now then?
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Blue's single, that's all I know. x)
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HaruTotetsu Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Aww...what made them split up?
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I don't know.
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HaruTotetsu Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Aww..shame...oh well she'll get her perfect man someday.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Let's hope so :P
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fsou Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
To be honest, last person I dated lasted 3 months.
I, myself, broke up with them for my reasons, not because I did not wanna date them anymore or anything like that, I did it to save our friendship.

But, I remember I posted a picture with me and them, and one of my idols who are watching me posted a journal saying "I hate when people say they will love someone forever." .. It actually hurt me a lot.

It's note like they are dating the person, they should butt out. v n v

Sorry for the.. Longish.. Comment, but I felt like I was the only person who felt this way. xD;;
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PurrincessBunbun Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I wouldnt know the feeling because I have nmever been in a relationship XD YAYME?? XD
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Miiroku Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
Well this has nothing to do with what's happening to me, it just bothers me in general when I see anyone comment about anyone relationship and saying they wont last or something. XD

I mean, yeah, most relationships don't last, but it's no one elses business if they're together forever or brake up the next day, ya know? o3o
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PurrincessBunbun Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
ikr? XD
and me too
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RayleeCat Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know the feels.
You change girlfriends every 2 weeks.
Don't get on my relationship >:\
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Sukimi123 Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That's been happening a lot on tumblr.
That's I rarely post my relationship status online or anyplace really.
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